Effects of Divorce on Children
Toddlers and Younger Kiddos
More than we think, children up to the age of four or five pick up on a lot more than babies do. Children in single-parent households may be more prone to acting out, being overly clinging, and having more nightmares than their peers. Older people may even blame themselves for marriage difficulties and dissatisfaction.
Dreams and Nightmares
Stress-related Sleep Disorders
Sleep disorders can develop in youngsters who are under a lot of stress. The following is a list of some of the most prevalent illnesses that can be brought on by a stressful environment, along with some associated symptoms. The fact that your child is showing some of these symptoms does not necessarily mean that they have a condition; instead, you should consult with their doctor to acquire an accurate diagnosis.
- Bedtime is a struggle for this child.
- Exhausted throughout the day.
- Feelings can change at any moment.
- Inability to maintain concentration for long periods of time.
Sleep-onset Association Disorder
- A baby who wakes up in the middle of the night.
- Without a certain environment, such as a car, nursing, or being rocked, the baby is unable to feel secure.
- Throughout the day, I was feeling drained.
- During the night, I’m plagued with nightmares.
- A hard time getting out of bed during an episode.
- Sleepwalking, I’ve noticed some odd behavior.
- After waking up, I’m confused.
- Nightmares that occur on a regular basis.
- Sleep disturbances on a regular basis.
- Inability to operate during the day, as well as tiredness.
- The fear of the dark at night, or the terror of going to sleep.
- There are a lot of pressing issues.
Is Co-sleeping a Bad Idea?
Tips for Coping at Bedtime
Getting a youngster to sleep when they’re struggling with life-altering events can be tough. A good night’s sleep is essential to your child’s ability to function and cope with their day-to-day challenges, even when they are living in two different households. Make your nights a little easier with these suggestions.
Expect an Adjustment Period
Work with Your Ex
Avoid Venting in Front of Your Kids
Agree on a Sleep Routine
Create Similar Spaces, Buy Duplicate Toys
Talk it out with your co-parent.
I understand that taking the first step is frequently the most difficult, but no matter how you feel about the parent of your child, you must work together for your child’s sake. Learn how to speak with your ex about your child, their well-being, and the specifics of their nighttime sleep patterns. Discuss your child’s sleep patterns with your co-parent. You and your child should come to an agreement on bedtime rituals and sleeping arrangements so that your youngster is more likely to stick to them.
Communicate with your child.
Now that you and your co-parent have devised a strategy, it’s time to share it with your child (ideally, together)! Your recent divorce or separation may be leading your child to experience an overabundance of feelings. While this may be the case, everyday life may still be causing them stress (new sitters, a new school, normal developmental leaps, etc). Reassuring your child that everything will be fine, even when they are young, may frequently be accomplished by just talking to them about all the things that are going on in their lives. Keep an open line of communication and never criticize your child’s parent in front of them. To put it another way, it doesn’t help at all and merely creates a rift in your child’s relationship with you. Assuring your children that you and their other parents will always be there for them. In the midst of a lot of upheavals, reassure them that they can count on you to be there for each other.
The same safe sleep environment should apply in both homes:
- To keep the light from coming in from the windows, use room-darkening shades, heavy drapes, or mini-blinds. If you want a peaceful night’s sleep, make the room absolutely dark!
- Noise in the background. Background noise, such as a fan or a baby’s crib soother, masks errant noises in the home or neighborhood. It can also be used as a sleep timer in the nursery, as it emits a soothing sound when it’s time to turn in.
- In a cozy cradle or bed. Comfortable sleeping conditions are essential for your child. In terms of convenience and safety, the crib should be free of any loose objects before a baby is placed within.
- A high-quality video display. It’s critical that your baby’s monitor emits as little light as possible, as this can easily agitate him.
- The use of a sound monitor works just as well if you’re used to using it. A child’s room or cot should be child-proofed.
- They will be able to lift themselves out of the crib as they grow. The crib should be at least 5 feet away from any other objects when this milestone occurs. Things can be brought into the crib by your infant if he or she is able to reach them. Before a big event like this, make sure the house is childproofed. The best thing you can do is to be cautious rather than sorry.